Holidays of any sort are always interesting when you are chronically ill, or have food allergies for that matter. Everything can be so uncertain. Of course you do everything within your power to protect yourself and sometimes you just have to politely decline an invitation here and there.
I was sure this 4th I was doing nothing, Cook Outs can be questionable for me, I can't do fireworks and was planning to lay low until the All Father texted me to come over. Why yes of course :-D. The special thing about the All Father and Frigga is, the always make sure I am safe even when they have a group of people over. They understand every aspect of my health, and Frigga is brilliant at finding safe foods for me to eat. I am always blessed that they find people willing to under stand my health issues and make the atmosphere safe for me.
Holidays are not always easy, in fact most times they are quite difficult. I have had people tell me to my face it doesn't matter if I come or not I can't eat what they eat anyways. I had people open things in front of me with no care and this not just a me thing its a people like me thing. Some days you just gotta be assertive and kindly explain you are so much more then your disease. Its also OK to distant yourself from these people. You do NOT have to be around people who make you constantly worry about your disease or your food allergies. Or whatever is wrong with you.
The people that alter things for you, they love you. They do not do it because they have to, they do it because they want you around and they are wiling to make an adjustment to their plans or menu so you can be with them safely. They do not want to see you sick or hurt. I know how hard it is not to feel guilty that someone make whats seems like a huge alteration to their plans. Or like the All Father, he comes and gets me for long days so I can take meds that make me tired and loopy. So Wonder Woman isn't worrying constantly, and I can enjoy the day with out the worry of being sick or getting home before meds kick in.
I have walked all my loved ones thru what needs to be done to keep me safe and cool and they are always willing to make adjustments for me, and the ones who aren't?? I had to learn to either try and be patient and teach them the seriousness of what my health brings or just distance myself from situations all together which is OK to.
Don't be afraid to cancel a plan because you are not comfortable being in a situation.
Love Y'all
~Poppet
I was sure this 4th I was doing nothing, Cook Outs can be questionable for me, I can't do fireworks and was planning to lay low until the All Father texted me to come over. Why yes of course :-D. The special thing about the All Father and Frigga is, the always make sure I am safe even when they have a group of people over. They understand every aspect of my health, and Frigga is brilliant at finding safe foods for me to eat. I am always blessed that they find people willing to under stand my health issues and make the atmosphere safe for me.
Holidays are not always easy, in fact most times they are quite difficult. I have had people tell me to my face it doesn't matter if I come or not I can't eat what they eat anyways. I had people open things in front of me with no care and this not just a me thing its a people like me thing. Some days you just gotta be assertive and kindly explain you are so much more then your disease. Its also OK to distant yourself from these people. You do NOT have to be around people who make you constantly worry about your disease or your food allergies. Or whatever is wrong with you.
The people that alter things for you, they love you. They do not do it because they have to, they do it because they want you around and they are wiling to make an adjustment to their plans or menu so you can be with them safely. They do not want to see you sick or hurt. I know how hard it is not to feel guilty that someone make whats seems like a huge alteration to their plans. Or like the All Father, he comes and gets me for long days so I can take meds that make me tired and loopy. So Wonder Woman isn't worrying constantly, and I can enjoy the day with out the worry of being sick or getting home before meds kick in.
I have walked all my loved ones thru what needs to be done to keep me safe and cool and they are always willing to make adjustments for me, and the ones who aren't?? I had to learn to either try and be patient and teach them the seriousness of what my health brings or just distance myself from situations all together which is OK to.
Don't be afraid to cancel a plan because you are not comfortable being in a situation.
Love Y'all
~Poppet
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